In my last article I talked about what is important to you in life. Its not necessarily as obvious as we sometimes think. There are always a few key things like money and family that people come up with, however its usually the layer below those that make the biggest difference.
Spend some time on your own and write down answers to the questions below. Don’t over analyse the questions, just jot down the first things that come into you head. Focus on what matters to you. Don’t worry about what everyone else thinks is important. We spend far too time much time and energy worrying and thinking about what other people think we should do, think, and behave.
1. What gets you excited?
2. What gives you the most energy?
3. What makes you happy?
4. What do you think and talk about most of the time – what you want or what you don’t want?
5. Who do you want to be around you?
6. What do you love to do?
7. What do you want to achieve in your lifetime?
8. Where do you want to live?
9. What type of lifestyle do you want?
10. If you won the lottery tomorrow, what would you change in your life?
11. If the doctor said you had six months to live, what would you do?
12. If you had 5 years to live, what would you do?
13. If you had unlimited money what would you like to do?
14. What would your ideal day look like?
15. Write you own epitaph, what would you like people to say about you at your funeral?
16. What are the activities that give you your greatest sense of meaning or purpose in life?
17. What do you like to do on your weekends?
18. How much time would you want to take off every year and what would you like to do with this time?
19. How much time would you like to spend with your partner, children, family or friends?
20. What activities would you like to do with them?
21. What hobbies or sports would you like to do in your week and how much time would you like to spend on them?
22. How would you organise your year if you had no limitations and complete control over your time?
Ideally from this exercise you will have a clearer picture about what you want in your life. If you find this exercise difficult, just remember to keep it simple. You could try writing down what your perfect week would look like and work from there.
Personally I find it a little difficult to get specific about some of the long term things in my life as I like change and so much happens in my life. I am however very clear on what creates a fulfilling life for me. For example the amount of holidays and travel, time for exercise, health, friends, family, training and development, business and financial goals, etc.
A few years ago one of my clients came to me saying that although he had achieved his long time goal of being a full time property investor he wasn’t enjoying it and was struggling to get out of bed in the morning. The main reason for this is that he wanted to be a property investor because he thought it would bring him the financial rewards which would allow him to live the life he always wanted. I asked him to spend some time writing down what was really important to him in life.
His summarised list had 11 key things on it. When we sat down and talked about each of them and looked creatively at how he could have them in his life today there was only one that needed a significant amount of money that he currently didn’t have access to. I then had a 40 year man in tears in front of me from the revelation it gave him. Often its the small things in life that we overlook that carry the most importance to us.